Supporting a Loved One

Whether you are a parent, friend, spouse, partner, or other family member, you can be a pivotal force in your loved one’s recovery from sexual assault.

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Tell her/him you believe them.

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Be supportive and thank that person for sharing their experience.

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Tell her/him it was not their fault.

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Listen, Listen, Listen.

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Focus on the survivor’s emotions, not on actual facts about the assault.

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Do not accuse or judge your loved one.

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Gently encourage the survivor to report the assault, but respect her/his decision if they choose not to.

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If you are their partner, do not pressure them for sex.

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It is normal to feel enraged that someone hurt your loved one, but the focus should remain on the survivor’s emotions.

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Although it may be difficult, try not to over-protect your loved one.

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Encourage them to seek professional counseling.

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Do not pretend the assault never happened.

Remember even if the assault or abuse happened a long time ago, you could be the first person they have told. Your reaction will have a big impact on them.