PAVE Affiliate, Big Voice Pictures, creators of the award winning video Boys & Men’s Healing, will be hosting their first ever screening and discussion at Penn State University Tuesday April 3rd and Wednesday April 4th for Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Please Join PAVE Executive Director & Founder, Angela Rose at this Incredible Event!
Boys and Men Healing Film Screenings at Penn State
One of Over Hundreds of Screenings Across the Nation: A National Awareness Raising
Campaign and MALESURVIVOR.ORG ‘DARE TO DREAM EVENT 2′
JOIN THE HEALING JOURNEY!
Penn State –Penn State will host two screenings of Boys and Men Healing, a
leading documentary produced by Big Voice Pictures about the affects of male child sexual
abuse and the importance of healing, speaking out, and advocating for ending the cycle of
the sexual abuse of boys. This event is hosted by Penn State University.
The film screenings and Q&A following will be held at Altoona Campus at 7:00 p.m. on
April 3, 2012 at the Misciagna Theater on the Penn State Altoona campus. A reception will
be held @ 6 p.m. that evening in the Titleman Lounge of the theater to welcome the
speakers. The panel of speakers include: Simon Weinberg, Co-Producer of Boys and Men
Healing, Mark Crawford, survivor and MaleSurvivor Advisory Board member also featured
in the film, Founding Board Members of MaleSurvivor and current Advisory Board
members, Jim Struve LCSW and Howard Fradkin, Ph.D,, and Chris Anderson, survivor
and Vice President of MaleSurvivor. MaleSurvivor is a leading organization providing
useful information to promote health, discussion and connections for male survivors of
sexual abuse and those who support them.
The second screening will be held at Penn State – University Park on Wed April 4th from 7-
8:30 pm in the HUB Auditorium. The panel of speakers will be available for a Q & A after
Boys and Men Healing is a film from director and producer Kathy Barbini, and co-producer
Simon Weinberg of Big Voice Pictures. Boys and Men Healing digs deep into the impact of
male child sexual abuse on both the individual and society, and highlights the importance of
male survivors healing and speaking out for the well being of our families, and
communities. Featuring non-offending men, this film shows the profound effects of
boyhood sexual abuse — shame, intimacy problems, sexual identity confusion, post-
traumatic stress, substance abuse or and unresolved rage that led to violence. Despite such
devastating effects, each man ultimately chose the arduous task of healing. Through
counseling, support groups and prevention advocacy, each man is a testimony of hope and
the ability for survivors to thrive.
Events are free to the public and open to the media, though seating is limited.
Free parking in lots.
Who: Penn State is hosting. Free and open to the public.
What: Boys and Men Healing documentary screening and panel discussion
When: Tuesday, April 3 6:30 pm Reception and 7:00pm Film Screening ; Wednesday April 4. 7:00pm Film Screening
Where: April 3: Misciagn Theater on Altoona campus; April 4, at the Hub Auditorium at the Penn State University Park.
This film screening is sponsored by Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) and
Penn State Student Affairs
What the Experts are Saying about Boys and Men Healing:
“Absolutely superb…Emotionally Powerful”
Matthew Mendel, Ph.D., Psychologist
Author of The Male Survivor: Impact of Sexual Abuse
“Kathy Barbini’s film has the potential to transform those stories and voices into healing –
not only for individuals but also for families, communities, and even societies.”
Jim Hopper, Founding Board Member, 1in6.org
“An excellent film for teaching about children’s experiences of sexual abuse and the
multiple influences that support their healing and recovery…a marvelous gift to us all.”
Ernesto Mujica, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist and Psychoanalysis , NYSPA Division of
Psychoanalysis and Advisory Board Member of MaleSurvivor and Co-chair of the 2012
“Will have a profound effect.”
Eileen King, Regional Director, Justice for Children
“An excellent breakthough…Extraordinarily touching and brave”
Alex Bottinelli, Resource Coordinator
Vermont Network Against Domestic and Sexual Violence
“Very beautifully filmed…know how deeply it is appreciated by countless people…”
Chrys Ballerano, Building Connections, Project Co-Director/Community Educator &
Resource Library Coordinator, NYS Coalition Against Sexual Assault
“Boys and Men Healing is a powerful evocation of a complex, deeply felt issue that affects
not just sexually abused boys and men, but each and every one of us living in a society that
has come so late to recognize this prevalent problem, and is still struggling about whether
and how to prevent it and heal its victims.
Richard Gartner, Ph.D., Psychotherapist and MaleSurvivor Advisory Board Member
Author: Beyond Betrayal: Taking Charge of Your Life After Boyhood Sexual Abuse
and Betrayed as Boys: Psychodynamic Treatment of Sexually Abused Men
“While it is clear this film will help survivors heal and providers treat, I see an even greater
purpose. Use this film to educate lawmakers!Senator Joe Vitale, New Jersey State Senate
Don’t miss out on PAVE’s FREE Wednesday Lunch & Learn Webinar Series for Sexual Assault Awareness Month!
Every Wednesday from 12pm – 1pm CST*** for the month of April, PAVE will be hosting a FREE Webinar about different aspects of Sexual Violence Prevention (See topics and times below). No registration required. Click the links below 10 minutes prior to the webinar time to join. Password is 123. OR, visit http://pavesaamwebinar.eventbrite.com to register.
***To join the online meeting***
1. Go to https://cisco.webex.com/ciscosales/j.php?ED=190640872&UID=0&PW=NZjA2NDY5NmYz&RT=MiM3
(Login in at least 10 minutes prior to the event so you can
2. Enter your name and email address.
3. Enter the meeting password: 123
4. Click “Join Now”.
To view in other time zones or languages, please click the link:
Please read this ACTION ALERT from Avaaz!
Days ago, 16 year-old Amina Filali, raped, beaten and forced to wed her rapist, killed herself — the only way she saw to escape the trap set for her by her rapist and the law. If we act now, we can stop this unspeakable tragedy from happening to anyone else.
Article 475 in Morocco’s penal code allows a rapist to avoid prosecution and a long prison sentence by marrying his victim if she is a minor. Since 2006, the government has promised to strike this down and pass legislation prohibiting violence against women, but it hasn’t happened.
Hundreds of Moroccan protestors are in the streets demanding real reform, turning up the heat on the Prime Minister and heads of other ministries, who write and sponsor bills and the international media has picked up the story. If we ramp up pressure, we can see real progress now. Sign the petition for a comprehensive law to stop violence against women, including the repeal of Article 475. When we reach 250,000 signatures, we’ll work with local women’s groups to deliver our call to decision-makers:
When Amina was brutally raped, her family reported it to officials in their town of Larache. Instead of prosecuting the rapist, the court allowed him the option of marrying his victim– and Amina’s family agreed to the proposal.
Now, in response to global outrage, the government has issued a statement arguing that the relationship was consensual, but that story isn’t verified. Our Moroccan partners on the ground say that this is a typical government attempt to blame the victim and whitewash the issue — meanwhile the law is still on the books and now, more than ever, we need to reject Article 475. Women’s groups in Morocco have long fought this, and it’s time for the legislature to renounce this wretched tradition and pass real protections for women.
Outraged Moroccans are flooding social networking sites and the streets in protest. Hundreds of women staged a sit-ins in front of the Larache court and Parliament this week. Let’s join in the demand that laws should protect, not trample on women’s rights:
Time and again, Avaaz members use our collective power to join with people around the globe to fight for a better world — today, let’s stand together for Amina Filali and the legacy of hope that her story must leave.
With that hope,
Dalia, Carol, Emma, Rewan, Ricken, Luis, Antonia and the rest of the Avaaz team
Morocco protest against rape-marriage law (BBC)
Morocco mulls tougher line against rape-marriages (Al Jazeera)
Protesters in Morocco demand reform of rape laws after teen girl’s suicide (CNN)
Morocco: Amina’s parents contradict official account, insist their daughter was raped
Global Rights report on violence against women in Morocco
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Please enjoy this AMAZING article by Claudia Bayliff from SAFVIC:
The language we use to describe sexual violence helps shape our response to this terrible crime. Law enforcement officers play a crucial role in the criminal justice system’s response to sexual violence. They are often the gatekeepers—the first person victims inter-act with after they have been raped. How law enforcement officers talk about sexual violence has a profound impact on how victims, other criminal justice system professionals, media and society at large think about and respond to the crime. This is not about being “politically correct”; it is about writing reports and discussing cases in a way that makes law enforce-ment more effective and successful.
There are three main problems with the way we all talk about sexual violence:
- We use the language of consensual sex to describe assaultive acts;
- We describe victims in terms that objectify them or blame them for the violence;
- and We talk about sexual violence in ways that create an “invisible perpetrator.”
Unfortunately, when we use this type of language, we help to reinforce the stereotypes and myths about sexual violence. We also create an image of this crime that focuses solely on its victims—what they did or did not do to “cause” their victimization–and allows perpetrators to remain invisible and unaccountable. Obviously, there are lots of factors at work that make it harder for us to hold rapists accountable, but the language we use is one key element.
Using the Language of Consensual Sex to De-scribe Assaultive Acts:
When we describe sexual assaults in terms usually used for pleasurable and affectionate acts, we minimize and hide the violence in-volved and we make it harder to visualize the acts as unwanted violations.1 We also help create an image of an intimate and non-threatening scene. For example, think about the different image that is created when we say, “He had sex with her” versus “He forcefully penetrated her vagina with his penis.” Other examples include: “He fondled her breasts,” “He kissed, hugged, caressed or had sex with her.” These phrases also create an image of a mutual act, rather than a physical assault forced on one person by another. Consider how often we talk about child victims “performing oral sex” on their adult perpetrators, rather than describing how adults forcibly penetrate a child. All of us need to be very careful not to use the language of consensual sex when we are describing a sexual assault.
Another trap we often fall into is to talk about sexual violence in ways that blame or objectify victims. This quote from a New York Times article is a great example: “Residents of the neighborhood…said she dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s. She would hang out with teenage boys at the playground, some said.”2 The person de-scribed by this author is an 11-year-old child who, according to police, was gang-raped by 18 men and teenaged boys on multiple occasions. The neighbors quoted in the article went on to describe how “these boys will have to live with this the rest of their lives,” never stopping to consider the impact on the 11-year-old child.
The term “the accuser” has been nearly universally adopted to describe victims of sexual violence, even when referring to young children. Yet when we use this term, rather than victim or alleged victim, we shift the blame and responsibility from the perpetrator to the victim. Jackson Katz, the author and filmmaker, has the best explanation on why we should not use the term “accuser” to describe sexual assault victims. He explains how the term shifts the victim/perpetrator dynamics of a sexual assault: “She is now the perpetrator of an accusation against him. At the same time, he is transformed from the alleged perpetrator of sexual assault to the actual victim of her accusation. The public is thus positioned to identify sympathetically with him—to feel sorry for him—as the true victim.”3 We need to think carefully how we talk about sexual assault victims and make sure that we are not blaming them or holding them responsible for their own victimization.
The “Invisible Perpetrator”: Consider the difference between these two sentences: “Jessica was raped” versus “Matthew raped Jessica.” In the first sentence, the perpetrator is completely invisible. The second sentence uses accountable language that focus-es our attention on the person committing the crime: Matthew. We often talk about how rapes “occur” as though they were random acts that just happened, as opposed to deliberate, intentional, criminal assaults committed by one person against another. In addition, we describe victims as objects of acts that have no specified agents, describing them as “abused women” or “battered women.” We talk about “violent relationships” when it is the batterer, not the relationship, who is violent.
How Law Enforcement Officers Can Help:
It will take a concerted effort by all of us who work within the criminal justice system, the media, and society as a whole, to change how we talk about and respond to sexual violence. Law enforcement officers can play an important role here. Here are some recommendations for how you can help:
- Avoid using the language of consensual sex to describe assaultive acts. Instead, use language that describes body parts and what the victim was forced to do. Obviously, if you are quoting witnesses’ statements or the language of the statute, you need to use their exact language.
- Use language that reflects the unilateral nature of the sexual violence; avoid language that suggests the acts were mutual.
- Use accountable language that places responsibility on the person committing the criminal acts; avoid the “invisible perpetrator.”
- Help educate others about the importance of using accountable, accurate language when talking about sexual violence.
1Janet Bavelas & Linda Coates, Is it Sex or Assault? Erotic Versus Violent Language in Sexual Assault Trial Judgments, 10 J. Soc. Distress & Homeless 29 (2001).
2James C. McKinley, Vicious Assault Shakes Texas Town, N.Y. Times, Mar. 8, 2011, at A13.
3Jackson Katz, DSK’s Alleged Victim Should Not Be Called His “Accuser,” Huffington Post (Aug. 20, 2011), http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jackson-katz/dsks-alleged-victim-shoul_b_930996.html.
One of the many ways that PAVE Affiliate Protect Our Defenders raises awareness about sexual violence in the military is by having survivors share their stories. Please watch Rebecca’s Story below:
Do you have a story to tell? Please email your written, recorded or video story to info@ShatteringTheSilence.org. Please include weather or not you would like the story to be anonymous or how you would like us to use your name.
PAVE partner and AAUW organizer Cathy Foxhoven has written a wonderful play, A Mutual Onus to help raise awareness and Shatter the Silence. A Mutual Onus is a compilation of monologues about real women and their continued suffering in developing countries as well as here in the United States. The play premieres tonight, Saturday March 10th in Burlingame, California AND is also available for YOU to purchase and perform on your high school or college campus or in your community. Proceeds from the sale go to benefit PAVE. Please read the article below from Cathy Foxhoven about how you can get involved in A Mutual Onus:
What is a mutual onus? The definition of onus is a burden or an obligation — a duty. Mutual means shared.
One of my dear friends from AAUW, Diane Silven, gave me a copy of Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide for Christmas two years ago. I began reading it and found it so disturbing that I couldn’t read it at night — it was hard to sleep. I could only read it while traveling on Caltrain to teach in San Francisco.
The stories of global women’s issues were so powerful, and once I finished the book, I knew that I couldn’t ignore their plight. I had to do more than make a donation. I had to tell those stories in the only way I could — through the power of theater. It became an onus, and I needed to share this responsibility with others.
A Mutual Onus is a compilation of monologues about real women and their continued suffering in developing countries as well as here in the United States. You might recognize their stories from news sources — only the names have been changed to protect the subjects’ identities.
It is hard to imagine that such cruelty could be inflicted upon anyone, but there is hope and help because of international outcries.
You have the opportunity to help these women and girls by seeing this production live on March 10 at 1 p.m. at the Burlingame Library in Burlingame, California, or on April 20 at 7 p.m. at the Academy of Art University in San Francisco. No advance tickets are necessary. There is a suggested donation of $10.
The play is available for other AAUW branches to perform — in exchange for donations to two organizations that are helping give these women hope and a future: 34 Million Friends, which provides maternal health care, and Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment, which raises awareness that we don’t need to suffer silently when we have been sexually violated. We hope that you will generously support the work of these groups.
This post was written by Cathy Foxhoven, AAUW of California program director. Foxhoven has more than 35 years of experience as a professional actor and singer in films, prime time television, soap operas (The Young and the Restless), commercials, voiceovers, radio dramas, print work, and theatre in California, Colorado, Nevada, and Ohio. She is currently a professor at Academy of Arts University in the Motion Pictures and Television Department.
PAVE would like to give a warm welcome to SCOPE: School and College Organization for Prevention Organizers to PAVE’s Affiliate program.
SCOPE is the professional home for those whose mission is to empower primary prevention within schools, colleges and communities. SCOPE an independent, not-for-profit membership association for prevention educators and professionals. SCOPE embraces an ecological, inclusive, holistic, feminist, public health, evidence-based and multi-disciplinary vision of prevention.
To effectively promote the aims of the prevention community, SCOPE members deeply examine the causes of violence, health and safety risks within society — including hate, intolerance, apathy, gender bias, racism, homophobia, stigmatization of mental health, objectification of the human body, ignorance, predation and discrimination — to foster effective, interconnected, strategic prevention.
If you’re organization falls within this SCOPE, we highly suggest you attend SCOPE’s 2012 Annual Conference, October 18-20 in Orland, Florida or check out their Spring Webinar Series.
Governor Signs South Dakota Senate Bill 68 so that no statute of limitations applies to certain rape cases!
From Jolene Loetscher:
A huge WIN for victims’ rights happened in South Dakota on March 2nd, 2012. Gov. Daugaard signed Senate Bill 68 which removes the statute of limitations on certain criminal rape cases. This is a great step forward in helping victims become survivors and allowing survivors to find justice. PAVE partner and victim’s rights advocate Jolene Loetscher would like to give a special thanks to Sen. Mark Johnston for his work, friendship and support of her and so many other survivors. She would also like to give a shout out to the Compass Center for its incredible work with this legislation and its on-going mission to provide renewal and recovery. While this means some of the darkest crimes will see the light of justice, we cannot forget that in the darkness remain so many silent tears of victims who need our love and support.