PAVE Ambassador Shatters the Silence of Pastoral Abuse!

Set to song I’m Movin’ On by Rascal Flatts, PAVE Ambassador Samantha Beach gives us a look at how she overcame pastoral abuse and some facts on abuse within the church.

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HELP: The Movement

A National Movement to HELP: Heal, Educate, Lead, Prevent

A Positive, Proactive Approach That Engages Men & Women to work together to eradicate campus sexual assault

HELP is a National Movement to: Heal Survivors, Educate Key Segments, Lead the Charge to Transform & Prevent Campus Sexual Assault

HELP The Movement strategy delivered by PAVE Founder Angela Rose to the White House on February 21, 2014.

HELP: A Holistic Approach - Combatting the issue of sexual assault requires a cutting edge, cross-disciplinary approach that encompasses top-down and bottom-up strategies engaging students, faculty and administration to be a part of the solution. It needs to be inclusive of all stakeholders and communities including LGBTQ and other under-served populations with a focus on prevention, education of key segments and include an arm of healing and survivor support. Having brought together dozens of leading national organizations, PAVE is launching a coordinated, national effort in 2014 to galvanize the movement on college campuses across the country to HELP: Heal, Educate, Lead & Prevent

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PAVE Ambassador Julia Dixon – White House & BBC

PAVE’s Newest PAVE Ambassador Needs Your Help to Get to the White House!

Julia Dixon has been invited to participate in the White House taskforce to combat campus sexual assault. The event is right around the corner, Friday Feb 21 so this is an immediate request…every bit helps!  We need to help raise funds to get her there – please consider donating and help us meet our goal of $500. HELP US GET SURVIVOR VOICES IN THE WHITE HOUSE!

NOTE: Extra funds raised above the goal will be used for Bystander Intervention programming in the fraternity and sorority communities!

 

BREAKING NEWS – Julia was featured on BBC on Feb 19 – CLICK HERE

Julia Dixon was born and raised in a suburb of Akron, Ohio. She graduated in 2011 from The University of Akron where she received a Bachelor’s degree in English, with minor concentrations in Spanish and Professional Writing. Julia was raped in her dorm her first week at Akron, completely changing the course of her college experience. The subsequent events of that crime, which ended in court with a plea of “guilty” a year and a half later, lead her to realize the importance of speaking out in light of injustice and fighting for the rights of others. In 2014, Julia filed a Clery complaint against her university for mishandling her case and that of several other students. She hopes that creating dialogue will remove the stigmas of assault, allowing education and understanding to flow through our nation to the people who most need it.

CLICK HERE to read about Julia Dixon in NEWSWEEK

White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault

Virtual, Public Listening Sessions White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault

Kindly note, these calls will be off-the-record, and not intended for press purposes.

The White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault is pleased to announce that they will be holding a series of virtual, public listening sessions in February.  The Department of Justice, Office of Violence Against Women, in partnership with the Department of Education, Office for Civil Rights, and the Department of Justice, Civil Rights Division, will be hosting these sessions, and their colleagues from the White House, the Office of the Vice President, and the Agencies serving on the Task Force will also be participating.  We want you to join us!

Register for a listening session – click here.

NOTE: PAVE is collecting comments to submit to the TaskForce – please send to us by February 24, 2014 – email to: Campus@PavingTheWay.net

The Task Force is looking for concrete and creative ideas about how schools can prevent sexual assault, and how they can better respond when it happens – both in terms of supporting survivors and holding offenders accountable.

February 12, 3:00-4:00 pm EST - Students and Survivors

February 13, 4:00-5:00 pm EST - Researchers and National Experts

February 14, 4:00-5:00 pm EST – Victim Advocates, Rape Crisis Center Staff, Victim Service Providers, including Campus-based and Community Programs

February 18, 2:00-3:00 pm EST – University, College, and Community College Administrators and Leaders

February 18, 4:00-5:00 pm EST – Alumni, Parents, and Other Campus Stakeholders

February 19, 3:00-4:00 pm EST – Civil Liberties

February 20, 7:00-8:00 pm EST – Students and Survivors

February 21, 4:00-5:00 pm EST – Campus Law Enforcement, Local Law Enforcement, Student Conduct Personnel, Campus Disciplinary/Judicial Boards, and Title IX Coordinators

February 25, 5:00-6:00 pm EST – Students and Survivors

February 26, 3:00-4:00 pm EST - Open Forum

The listening sessions are designed to allow as many people as possible to provide input.  They won’t be answering questions, but instead will be listening to you.  If you have questions, they will gather them for a future response.

They have three different Students and Survivors listening sessions, spread over three weeks, to accommodate the demand within the webinar capacity.  If you’re not a student or survivor, please don’t join this session – you might unintentionally block a student or survivor from participating.  If you are a student or survivor, they would appreciate you joining one of these three sessions.

Listening sessions will use the Adobe Connect webinar service, which allows participants to queue up to make verbal comments.  Participants can also type comments in a chat box.  We expect a large number of participants, so please plan to keep your remarks brief – about 3 minutes – so more people can have a turn to speak.

Streaming ASL interpretation is available upon request.  When you register for your choice of listening session, just select the ASL box.

Kindly note, these calls will be off-the-record, and not intended for press purposes.

Please keep an eye on OVW’s website, www.ovw.usdoj.gov, in the coming weeks for any updates.  Don’t forget to register for the listening sessions athttps://ta2ta.org/events/webinars/white-house-listening-sessions.html.

PAVE is so grateful for a strong focus on these crucial issues!

PAVE Ambassador Jasmin Needs Your Help to Get to the White House

PAVE’s Newest PAVE Ambassador Needs Your Help to Get to the White House!

Jasmin Enriquez has been invited to participate in the White House taskforce to combat campus sexual assault. The event is right around the corner, Friday Feb 21 so this is an immediate request…every bit helps!  We need to help raise funds to get her there – please consider donating and help us meet our goal of $1000 to cover plane fare and other travel expenses. HELP US GET SURVIVOR VOICES IN THE WHITE HOUSE!


 

Jasmin Enriquez is an activist from Southern California. She is a 2013 graduate of Penn State University where she earned her Bachelor of Art’s degree in Communication Arts and Sciences and also minored in Women’s Studies. After being sexually assaulted as a senior in high school and as a first-year student in college she decided to speak up about her experiences to try to make an impact in the community. Through her soon-to-be non-profit, Only With Consent, she plans on spreading the message of consent to upset rape culture and generate consent culture. She believes open dialogue and age-appropriate education are the first steps to creating a world that values consent.

News articles:

SVAW: Asking for Consent IS Sexy

April brings local and national efforts for sexual violence awareness

SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS WEEK AT PENN STATE – AN INTERVIEW WITH THE FOUNDER

We will also be raising money at the Vagina Monologues in Chicago for this. Extra funds raised will be used for an “Only With Consent” campaign for college campuses across the US!

 

 

 

Obama Launches Effort to Battle Campus Sexual Assault Epidemic

For Immediate Release: January 24, 2014

Contact: Sarah Rice, MTV – PAVE Ambassador

(877) 399-1346, Ext 4 - SarahRice@PavingTheWay.net

 

Obama Launches Effort to Battle Campus Sexual Assault Epidemic

National Group Applauds Efforts and Thanks Sexual Assault Survivors for Their Role

Arlington, VA – This week, President Barack Obama announced the launch of a new focus to combat the alarming rate of sexual assaults committed on college campuses. According to a new report by the White House, college women are the most at-risk for rape and sexual assault.  The report, “Rape and Sexual Assault: A Renewed Call to Action,” says that 1 in 5 women have been sexually assaulted at college but that only 12 percent of student victims report the assault.

Sarah Rice from MTV is an ambassador for PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment  – the national nonprofit that convened the National Campus Sexual Assault Summit at Georgetown Law in September of 2013.

PAVE has continued to help to build the collaborative national movement to combat campus sexual assault and has a strong focus on prevention through bystander intervention training. PAVE also has created awareness campaigns as well as workshops about cultivating communities of support with the goal of having no survivors feeling alone or disempowered.

PAVE is hopeful that this focus on college campus sexual assault will also trickle down into high schools – because that is also a critical population.  Earlier this month, a high school student Daisy Coleman attempted suicide after she was raped due to the exhausting fight for justice, lack of support and severe bullying from classmates.

Oftentimes, the process to seek justice can very re-traumatizing for survivors of sexual trauma and PAVE credits the outspoken survivors in that past few years who have taken to the national stage to promote this issue such as PAVE Ambassador Laura Dunn, Annie E. Clark, Andrea Pino, Wendy Wyler and many others.

PAVE Founder Angela Rose said, “This week was a momentous win for our collective national movement.  We are profoundly grateful for the current Administration to make this a top priority. PAVE also offers a debt of gratitude for all of the survivors who have used their voice to shatter the silence of sexual violence!”

Sarah Rice travels the country and speaks to college students and works with PAVE to engage men and women to be a part of the solution focusing on bystander intervention and supporting survivors.

Sarah Rice said, “I have heard countless stories from college students who have been sexually assaulted on campus and were sadly re-traumatized when they tried to report. PAVE applauds the President and his Administration for their renewed efforts on this critical issue, and we urge the task force to include survivors who have experienced the trauma firsthand. Survivors’ voices need to be heard!”

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PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment is a national nonprofit that uses education and action to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence. PAVE’s work has been featured on CNN, Oprah Winfrey Network, and in TIME. www.ShatteringTheSilence.org

 

 

End of the Year Giving – Please Support PAVE’s Mission!

Please Support PAVE’s Mission!

Earlier this year, PAVE convened the National Campus Sexual Assault Summit at Georgetown Law School – which was broadcast live to over 300 colleges. We also had a surprise special guest from the White House speak at this event! A key part of the solution lies in engaging and educating men and women in bystander intervention.

Our work with college campuses is crucial. According to the US Department of Justice, 1 in 4 women in college will be sexually assaulted during her time at university.

Moreover, 9 out of 10 women in college who are raped don’t report the crime.

We need your help today to continue our important work and what we need most critically is your financial support. We are calling potential supporters for our holiday fund drive and I hope you can help us.

The MONEY you DONATE will go toward:

·         Implementing our new technology to deliver training to schools nationwide  AND

·         Expanding our PAVE campus chapters. The University of Wisconsin at Madison was our first chapter, begun personally by our founder, Angela Rose. Today, students can earn credit through their School of Social Work as they become peer educators!

PAVE’s work has been featured on CNN, Oprah Winfrey Network, BIO Channel and many more!

Please help us in our goal to promote awareness and empower the victims of sexual violence.

Thank you for considering PAVE in your Holiday giving! Click here to Donate!

Or checks can be made out to PAVE and mailed to:

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Thanks again for your consideration! Happy New Year!

PS, Here are some recent Chicago media links about our work…..

ABC 7 news Chicago: http://bit.ly/IVLnK1

WGN: http://bit.ly/JD3Bju

 

Nissa’s Story: I reported the abuser & I testified

Two years ago (Aug. 2011), I reported my former stepfather to the police for sexually abusing me when I was a young child. He was in my life for 7 years, beginning when I was 10 months old. He took on the role of father and I had no other safe father. I loved him and was devastated by the abuse and mental/emotional manipulation. I kept it secret for a long time. But as I began to feel more secure in my life as a young adult I slowly began telling people, working toward emotional healing over the last 13 years. It was a long time before I felt ready to go to the police, but as it turns out, the statute of limitations had not yet expired for most of the abuse.

I testified at the Grand Jury Hearing on September 16th, and it was finished with a result on September 25th.

The jury’s final deliberations concluded with a vote that did not have enough positive votes to result in my former stepfather being indicted. He is not about to be arrested, the court is not preparing for a trial. This path toward prosecution of his crimes came to an abrupt end before it could really begin. And I do not know what reasoning led them to this decision, which was so surprising to everyone involved.

The Grand Jury members are just a regular group of citizens like any other jury. When I testified at the Grand Jury hearing I was crying and my whole body was shaking, so much that I had to put my hand onto my shoulder to try and stop it because my muscles hurt from shaking like that. My testimony made me re-experience so many painful emotions that normally I keep tucked out of sight so that I can just function in the world.

Jury members were crying, and gasping in shock and horror and making verbal exclamations about how horrendous the things he did were. I described the sexual abuse from age 3 (when I can first remember) to almost age 8 as well as all the details of the sadistic ways he treated me. Things that, as horrible as they were, I grew up thinking it was just no big deal or it was my fault. I believed that all the shame of sexual abuse was my shame.

He was going to be charged with rape of a child from age 5 to 7.5 (which he did in many many horrendous ways under the laws that cover it and he could have killed me or so it seemed in my experience). My very detailed memory, while hard to live with personally, did provide a clear and convincing account of what took place. There was never an issue with my credibility, it was clear that they believed me. Still for some reason,  enough of the jury members made the decision that my testimony wasn’t enough, the presentation of the prosecutor wasn’t enough, and they would let my abuser go free, denying me this chance to have him publicly face the charges against him.

During the initial investigation the police called my former stepfather up on the phone. They just said they wanted to ask him questions about a report of sexual assault in connection to the address that we had lived at. Without asking any questions about who made the report, who was being accused, or any question at all about the basic facts of what this was about, he just said that he was not going to speak, and that he was going to get a lawyer. Apparently he already knew what he was guilty of and what he needed to get a lawyer for.

On one occasion in the recent past, one of my family members happened upon him in a public place and confronted him about the abuse, he just laughed and smirked. At first he even pretended to not even recall if I existed. According to a lawyer friend of mine, this kind of irrational pretense of not knowing the victim, to the extent of feigning some kind of impossible temporary amnesia, is for some reason the first reaction of most guilty people who become unexpectedly questioned about an abuse allegation.

The arrogant and sadistic nature of his personality makes it very likely that he will continue his abusive pattern; his fear of getting caught will be redirected into pressure on his victims to keep the secrets. But I have learned in many ways, by many people in my life, that the truth inside us is always stronger than the lies that oppress us. We are stronger than we know.

I remember the time many years after he left us, my mother got a phone call from his new wife asking for help and advice about what to do because he was beating her during her third pregnancy, and telling her it was her fault. I don’t really know how she made it through that, and it saddens me to imagine any of it. I hope that she and her children can know their own strength and not be trapped by fear or shame.

When I asked the police to go forward with the investigation I did so knowing that I would have been able to safely and productively face him as an adult and confront him within the protection of a court of law, in the way that was impossible when I was a child. I felt I needed to do that. I wish I could.

But, I did everything that I could. I reported him to the police and that was extremely difficult and I hung in there for two years (through many difficult things in preparation for the trial), and I made it all the way to testifying at the Grand Jury. Many cases never get that far. The police and prosecutors did their job and they have been extremely kind, caring and supportive. I am very thankful to them for what they did and for taking the case as far as they did. They told me that because I am so articulate and self-reflective about what I have been through that they will be able to understand all sex abuse survivors even better now. They told me that the man who abused me is the most dangerous type of sexual predator, the way he infiltrated my life and became like a stepfather to me. The love that I felt for him prior to the abuse caused me a lifetime of conflicted feelings between how I really felt about the horrendous nature of the abuse and thinking that I needed to protect him regardless. For so long I blamed myself. They told me that my actions show how I will always protect my own children by standing up against this.

I am glad that I did this. I did the right thing and I did what I could. The police are keeping their eye on him now.

I’m not going to be afraid to speak about it anymore. I faced my biggest fear. When I first called the police 2 years ago I couldn’t even say his name without shaking rapidly and almost throwing up. But, I ended up two years later testifying at the Grand Jury hearing and that is amazing progress that reflects the internal transformation I had surrounding this. Letting go of my fear and no longer allowing him to continue controlling me on an internal level.

At this point I don’t know whether or not he will ever be brought to justice for the crimes he committed, and that loss of a path forward is very disheartening. Although there is still hope that somehow someone else will come forward and a new case can be brought against him.

Understanding the nature of sexual abuse and the path toward healing is something that is emotional to its core, and I feel that expressing myself through the medium of dance is something that can address aspects of this topic that is otherwise hard to get at just by talking.  To see what I mean, here is a video of a dance that I choreographed and performed about my experience and healing process.

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Shattering the Silence and Preventing Sexual Violence

The mission of PAVE is to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence. Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE) is a multi-chapter national 501c3 nonprofit organization that uses education and action to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence through targeted social, educational and legislative tactics.

To accomplish this mission, PAVE uses research-based educational materials aimed at prevention, professional development training for intervention, interactive art projects, and national awareness initiatives. PAVE’s work has been featured on many national media outlets including: CNN, Today Show and the Oprah Winfrey Network. www.ShatteringTheSilence.org

 

Download Mobile Phone Application – Shatter the Silence

PAVE and the Clery Center for Security on Campus’ Shatter The Silence App provides education and resources to help prevent sexual violence by equipping users with knowledge, skills and services through interactive multimedia tools. Shatter The Silence also provides instant EMERGENCY functionality that will contact the police, find nearby emergency medical care using geolocation technology, and connect you to immediate support from trained violence intervention specialists.

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PAVE Read Between the Lines Poster

Gather a group of people and have a Poster Party in the community where you can hang these posters in coffee shops, around a campus, on community bulletin, and in churches.  Bring: copies of this black and white poster, tape and push pins. Download the PDF – CLICK HERE

 

 

 

 

Celebrity – NO MORE Poster Campaign

NO MORE is a new unifying symbol designed to galvanize greater awareness and action to end domestic violence and sexual assault.  Supported by major organizations working to address these urgent issues, NO MORE is gaining support with Americans nationwide, sparking new conversations about these problems and moving this cause higher on the public agenda. PAVE has partnered with No More to distribute a poster series you can distribute all over your community featuring celebrities such as Courteney Cox, Amy Poehler, and Ice T. CLICK HERE to download posters

 

 

 

 

Postcard Project

Art is a powerful way to shatter the silence of sexual violence. It helps to break through barriers and defenses when dealing with this sensitive issue. It also helps give voice to things that are difficult to say with words. That is why PAVE designed the Postcard Project - Shattering the Silence of Sexual Violence. Participants will collage/write/draw on the postcard anything they want to shatter the silence of sexual violence. The cards will be collected or photographed and sent back to PAVE to be included into our PINTEREST account as well as shared online. People from all over the country are participating in the Postcard Project. Check the PAVE website for details about when and where the Postcard Project will be displayed. CLICK HERE for more info

 

Spoken Word Poetry to Shatter the Silence

Steve Connell is a world renowned poet seen on MTV, HBO and BET. Steve has performed at several PAVE events and he created a cd of poetry based on PAVE’s work called “Angel Rising”

 

Engaging Bystanders to Prevent Sexual Violence: A Guide for Preventionists

This guide is intended to help support advocates and preventionists in creating and sustaining bystander intervention programs in their communities. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center contacted six organizations that employ various bystander programs and strategies. This guide highlights each program and its unique approach to bystander intervention and provides lessons learned for advocates and preventionists to use in their work. CLICK HERE

 

 

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