End of the Year Giving – Please Support PAVE’s Mission!

Please Support PAVE’s Mission!

Earlier this year, PAVE convened the National Campus Sexual Assault Summit at Georgetown Law School – which was broadcast live to over 300 colleges. We also had a surprise special guest from the White House speak at this event! A key part of the solution lies in engaging and educating men and women in bystander intervention.

Our work with college campuses is crucial. According to the US Department of Justice, 1 in 4 women in college will be sexually assaulted during her time at university.

Moreover, 9 out of 10 women in college who are raped don’t report the crime.

We need your help today to continue our important work and what we need most critically is your financial support. We are calling potential supporters for our holiday fund drive and I hope you can help us.

The MONEY you DONATE will go toward:

·         Implementing our new technology to deliver training to schools nationwide  AND

·         Expanding our PAVE campus chapters. The University of Wisconsin at Madison was our first chapter, begun personally by our founder, Angela Rose. Today, students can earn credit through their School of Social Work as they become peer educators!

PAVE’s work has been featured on CNN, Oprah Winfrey Network, BIO Channel and many more!

Please help us in our goal to promote awareness and empower the victims of sexual violence.

Thank you for considering PAVE in your Holiday giving! Click here to Donate!

Or checks can be made out to PAVE and mailed to:

PAVE

233 S Wacker Dr, 84th Floor

Chicago, IL 60606

CLICK HERE for our Press Kit!

Thanks again for your consideration! Happy New Year!

PS, Here are some recent Chicago media links about our work…..

ABC 7 news Chicago: http://bit.ly/IVLnK1

WGN: http://bit.ly/JD3Bju

 

Nissa’s Story: I reported the abuser & I testified

Two years ago (Aug. 2011), I reported my former stepfather to the police for sexually abusing me when I was a young child. He was in my life for 7 years, beginning when I was 10 months old. He took on the role of father and I had no other safe father. I loved him and was devastated by the abuse and mental/emotional manipulation. I kept it secret for a long time. But as I began to feel more secure in my life as a young adult I slowly began telling people, working toward emotional healing over the last 13 years. It was a long time before I felt ready to go to the police, but as it turns out, the statute of limitations had not yet expired for most of the abuse.

I testified at the Grand Jury Hearing on September 16th, and it was finished with a result on September 25th.

The jury’s final deliberations concluded with a vote that did not have enough positive votes to result in my former stepfather being indicted. He is not about to be arrested, the court is not preparing for a trial. This path toward prosecution of his crimes came to an abrupt end before it could really begin. And I do not know what reasoning led them to this decision, which was so surprising to everyone involved.

The Grand Jury members are just a regular group of citizens like any other jury. When I testified at the Grand Jury hearing I was crying and my whole body was shaking, so much that I had to put my hand onto my shoulder to try and stop it because my muscles hurt from shaking like that. My testimony made me re-experience so many painful emotions that normally I keep tucked out of sight so that I can just function in the world.

Jury members were crying, and gasping in shock and horror and making verbal exclamations about how horrendous the things he did were. I described the sexual abuse from age 3 (when I can first remember) to almost age 8 as well as all the details of the sadistic ways he treated me. Things that, as horrible as they were, I grew up thinking it was just no big deal or it was my fault. I believed that all the shame of sexual abuse was my shame.

He was going to be charged with rape of a child from age 5 to 7.5 (which he did in many many horrendous ways under the laws that cover it and he could have killed me or so it seemed in my experience). My very detailed memory, while hard to live with personally, did provide a clear and convincing account of what took place. There was never an issue with my credibility, it was clear that they believed me. Still for some reason,  enough of the jury members made the decision that my testimony wasn’t enough, the presentation of the prosecutor wasn’t enough, and they would let my abuser go free, denying me this chance to have him publicly face the charges against him.

During the initial investigation the police called my former stepfather up on the phone. They just said they wanted to ask him questions about a report of sexual assault in connection to the address that we had lived at. Without asking any questions about who made the report, who was being accused, or any question at all about the basic facts of what this was about, he just said that he was not going to speak, and that he was going to get a lawyer. Apparently he already knew what he was guilty of and what he needed to get a lawyer for.

On one occasion in the recent past, one of my family members happened upon him in a public place and confronted him about the abuse, he just laughed and smirked. At first he even pretended to not even recall if I existed. According to a lawyer friend of mine, this kind of irrational pretense of not knowing the victim, to the extent of feigning some kind of impossible temporary amnesia, is for some reason the first reaction of most guilty people who become unexpectedly questioned about an abuse allegation.

The arrogant and sadistic nature of his personality makes it very likely that he will continue his abusive pattern; his fear of getting caught will be redirected into pressure on his victims to keep the secrets. But I have learned in many ways, by many people in my life, that the truth inside us is always stronger than the lies that oppress us. We are stronger than we know.

I remember the time many years after he left us, my mother got a phone call from his new wife asking for help and advice about what to do because he was beating her during her third pregnancy, and telling her it was her fault. I don’t really know how she made it through that, and it saddens me to imagine any of it. I hope that she and her children can know their own strength and not be trapped by fear or shame.

When I asked the police to go forward with the investigation I did so knowing that I would have been able to safely and productively face him as an adult and confront him within the protection of a court of law, in the way that was impossible when I was a child. I felt I needed to do that. I wish I could.

But, I did everything that I could. I reported him to the police and that was extremely difficult and I hung in there for two years (through many difficult things in preparation for the trial), and I made it all the way to testifying at the Grand Jury. Many cases never get that far. The police and prosecutors did their job and they have been extremely kind, caring and supportive. I am very thankful to them for what they did and for taking the case as far as they did. They told me that because I am so articulate and self-reflective about what I have been through that they will be able to understand all sex abuse survivors even better now. They told me that the man who abused me is the most dangerous type of sexual predator, the way he infiltrated my life and became like a stepfather to me. The love that I felt for him prior to the abuse caused me a lifetime of conflicted feelings between how I really felt about the horrendous nature of the abuse and thinking that I needed to protect him regardless. For so long I blamed myself. They told me that my actions show how I will always protect my own children by standing up against this.

I am glad that I did this. I did the right thing and I did what I could. The police are keeping their eye on him now.

I’m not going to be afraid to speak about it anymore. I faced my biggest fear. When I first called the police 2 years ago I couldn’t even say his name without shaking rapidly and almost throwing up. But, I ended up two years later testifying at the Grand Jury hearing and that is amazing progress that reflects the internal transformation I had surrounding this. Letting go of my fear and no longer allowing him to continue controlling me on an internal level.

At this point I don’t know whether or not he will ever be brought to justice for the crimes he committed, and that loss of a path forward is very disheartening. Although there is still hope that somehow someone else will come forward and a new case can be brought against him.

Understanding the nature of sexual abuse and the path toward healing is something that is emotional to its core, and I feel that expressing myself through the medium of dance is something that can address aspects of this topic that is otherwise hard to get at just by talking.  To see what I mean, here is a video of a dance that I choreographed and performed about my experience and healing process.

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Shattering the Silence and Preventing Sexual Violence

The mission of PAVE is to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence. Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE) is a multi-chapter national 501c3 nonprofit organization that uses education and action to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence through targeted social, educational and legislative tactics.

To accomplish this mission, PAVE uses research-based educational materials aimed at prevention, professional development training for intervention, interactive art projects, and national awareness initiatives. PAVE’s work has been featured on many national media outlets including: CNN, Today Show and the Oprah Winfrey Network. www.ShatteringTheSilence.org

 

Download Mobile Phone Application – Shatter the Silence

PAVE and the Clery Center for Security on Campus’ Shatter The Silence App provides education and resources to help prevent sexual violence by equipping users with knowledge, skills and services through interactive multimedia tools. Shatter The Silence also provides instant EMERGENCY functionality that will contact the police, find nearby emergency medical care using geolocation technology, and connect you to immediate support from trained violence intervention specialists.

CLICK HERE

 

 

 


PAVE Read Between the Lines Poster

Gather a group of people and have a Poster Party in the community where you can hang these posters in coffee shops, around a campus, on community bulletin, and in churches.  Bring: copies of this black and white poster, tape and push pins. Download the PDF – CLICK HERE

 

 

 

 

Celebrity – NO MORE Poster Campaign

NO MORE is a new unifying symbol designed to galvanize greater awareness and action to end domestic violence and sexual assault.  Supported by major organizations working to address these urgent issues, NO MORE is gaining support with Americans nationwide, sparking new conversations about these problems and moving this cause higher on the public agenda. PAVE has partnered with No More to distribute a poster series you can distribute all over your community featuring celebrities such as Courteney Cox, Amy Poehler, and Ice T. CLICK HERE to download posters

 

 

 

 

Postcard Project

Art is a powerful way to shatter the silence of sexual violence. It helps to break through barriers and defenses when dealing with this sensitive issue. It also helps give voice to things that are difficult to say with words. That is why PAVE designed the Postcard Project - Shattering the Silence of Sexual Violence. Participants will collage/write/draw on the postcard anything they want to shatter the silence of sexual violence. The cards will be collected or photographed and sent back to PAVE to be included into our PINTEREST account as well as shared online. People from all over the country are participating in the Postcard Project. Check the PAVE website for details about when and where the Postcard Project will be displayed. CLICK HERE for more info

 

Spoken Word Poetry to Shatter the Silence

Steve Connell is a world renowned poet seen on MTV, HBO and BET. Steve has performed at several PAVE events and he created a cd of poetry based on PAVE’s work called “Angel Rising”

 

Engaging Bystanders to Prevent Sexual Violence: A Guide for Preventionists

This guide is intended to help support advocates and preventionists in creating and sustaining bystander intervention programs in their communities. The National Sexual Violence Resource Center contacted six organizations that employ various bystander programs and strategies. This guide highlights each program and its unique approach to bystander intervention and provides lessons learned for advocates and preventionists to use in their work. CLICK HERE

 

 

MORE INFO ON PAVE…

Fear No Fashion

Fear No Fashion

Fear No Fashion 2013

Who: PAVE (Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment)

When: Friday, October 11, 2013 – 7-8pm: VIP Reception, 8-10pm: Event

Where: Room 1520 Loft, Chicago, IL

What: PAVE’s 5th Annual Fear No Fashion fundraiser

  • Will include a fashion show by Chicago designers, professionals models from Agency Galatea
  • Local and national celebrity guest appearances
  • Silent auction
  • Sponsored cocktails
  • Red carpet and celebrity VIP reception

Why: Because fashion is about feeling Beautiful and Empowered!

  • Fear No Fashion’s objective is to promote personal empowerment
  • Your donations benefit PAVE, an international nonprofit that uses education and action to shatter the silence and prevent sexual and domestic violence. PAVE’s work has been featured on CNN, Today Show, and in TIME

PURCHASE TICKETS – $65 for General, $125 includes VIP Reception, Gift Bag & Runway Seating

 

Fear No Fashion Tickets

 

SPONSOR OPPORTUNITIES!

CLICK HERE for Sponsor Packet!

FEAR NO FASHION Sponsor Options

 

Recent Media: 

CNN, The Lead: http://youtu.be/5Q5XjPxQeBE

ABC 7 News Chicago: http://abclocal.go.com/wls/story?section=resources&id=8659025

CNN Breakthrough Women about PAVE Founder Angela Rose: http://bit.ly/ZQSmtA

Host Committee Members Include:

Andrea Metcalf – Fitness Expert, Author, and Media Personality seen on Today Show and Good Morning America

Andrea Parsons – Fashion Model and Actress

April Rose – Model and Actress Starring in Grown-Ups 2

Bob Graham – Manager Director, UBS

Candace Jordan – Chicago Tribune social columnist, ChicagoNow blogger, Host Watch312, Candid Candace Chicago

Chase Clark – CHASEevents

Haley Lertola – Room 1520

Justin Roman – B96

JuneElise Marasigan – Room 1520

Nichole Niemann – Fashions with Flair

Merri Dee – Chicago Broadcasting Legend and Author

Marcellas Reynolds – Celebrity Stylist seen on The Tyra Banks Show, Style Network, E! News, and Big Brother

Marie P. Anderson – International Model Agent, Scout, and Director of Agency Galatea

Rafer Weigel  – ABC 7 Sports Anchor and Sports Reporter

Tim Toth – Celebrity Hair Stylist & Owner of Lather Chicago

Special Guests include:Miss Illinois 2013 Brittany Smith

Alicia Kozakiewicz: Survivor of kidnapping seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Dr. Phil, CNN and many more

 

Fundraising Campaign Kickoff

Fear No Fashion – VOX POPULI Magazine

VOX POPULI Magazine Joins PAVE as a Media Sponsor for Fear No Fashion Charity Fashion Show!

VOX POPULI Magazine is the premiere luxury fashion and lifestyle publication chronicling the most exclusive in fashion, entertainment, beauty, art, culture, celebrity, and film. VOX POPULI Magazine is in 26 countries and features superior journalism and sophisticated content providing an exclusive view into the world of high fashion, and an in-depth look into the people who make up the fashion and entertainment industry including, photographers, designers, stylists, film makers, and more. VOX POPULI Magazine delivers firsthand knowledge of the most exclusive in fashion and entertainment.

We are fierce and flawless. We are the Voice of the People.

SAVE THE DATE – Friday, Oct 11, Chicago

CLICK HERE for more info!

EVENT PRE-PARTY HAPPY HOUR, Tuesday, Sept 17 – 5:30-7:30pm – Underground Wonderbar - 710 N Clark St  Chicago, IL 60654

 

Host Committee Members Include:
Andrea Metcalf – Fitness Expert, Author, and Media Personality seen on Today Show and Good Morning America
April Rose – Model and Actress Starring in Grown-Ups 2
Candace Jordan – Chicago Tribune social columnist, ChicagoNow blogger, Host Watch312, Candid Candace Chicago
Chase Clark – CHASEevents
Justin Roman – DJ on B96
JuneElise Marasigan – Room 1520
Merri Dee – Chicago Broadcasting Legend and Author
Marcellas Reynolds – Celebrity Stylist seen on The Tyra Banks Show, Style Network, E! News, and Big Brother
Marie P. Anderson – International Model Agent, Scout, and Director of Agency Galatea
Rafer Weigel – ABC 7 Sports Anchor and Sports Reporter
Tim Toth – Celebrity Hair Stylist & Owner of Lather Chicago

Andrea Parsons – Fashion Model and Actress

Nichole Niemann, Fashions with Flair

Special Guests include:
Miss Illinois 2013 Brittany Smith
Alicia Kozakiewicz: Survivor of kidnapping seen on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Dr. Phil, CNN and many more

PAVE Membership

Thank you for joining PAVE!

National Campus Sexual Assault Summit

CLICK HERE FOR PRESS RELEASE

CLICK HERE for Event Recap

CLICK HERE for Photos

SPONSORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES!

CLICK HERE FOR COMPLETE SPONSOR PACKET!

Summit Sponsor Options

PRESS RELEASE: For Immediate Release - September 19, 2013 Contact: Angela Rose, 877.399.1346, Ex 1

National Campus Sexual Assault Summit To Be Held At Georgetown Law: Prevention, Empowerment and Policy

Washington DC – September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month and the national nonprofit PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment is convening the first ever National Campus Sexual Assault Summit that will focus on violence prevention with bystander intervention, empowerment of survivors, and policy including Title IX, The Clery Act and the Campus Sexual Violence Elimination (SaVE) Act. The National Campus Sexual Assault Summit will be convened on Friday, September 27, at Georgetown Law from 12:30pm-5:00pm featuring special guest Sarah Rice from MTV. This Summit is being broadcast live via webcast to over 300 colleges across the country. According to the US Department of Justice, at least one in four college women will be a victim of sexual assault during her academic career.  Recent coverage of the treatment of a rape victim at a major university shows how poorly designed procedures coupled with uninformed policies and a disconnected culture re-victimized the victim. Angela Rose, Founder of PAVE said, “We are galvanizing the collective and collaborative national movement on college campuses to enable students to have a learning environment free from harassment, violence and fear. Moreover, countless survivors are re-victimized by institutions and even fellow students when they attempt to seek justice – that has to change.” Two outspoken survivors of campus sexual assault who have received national media attention for their fight for justice – Laura Dunn and Wendy Wyler – will be present and available for interview. PAVE’s efforts boldly aspire to one day transform our nation into one free from sexual assault and ensure that no victim ever feels alone or disempowered. The National Campus Sexual Assault Summit is a part of the Safe Campus, Strong Voices campaign, which is a partnership between PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment and the Clery Center for Security On Campus. Over 400 colleges across the country have downloaded the Safe Campus, Strong Voices tool-kit. The partnership also launched a free mobile phone application “Shatter The Silence.” Founded by a victim of abduction and sexual assault turned activist Angela Rose, Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE) is a national nonprofit organization dedicated to using education and action to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence through targeted social, educational, and legislative tactics.   PAVE’s work has been featured on CNN, Today Show, and the Oprah Winfrey Network. PAVE strongly believes in the power of collaboration and the National Campus Sexual Assault Summit collaboration organizations include: Know Your IX, Male Survivor, National Stalking Resource Center, RESPONSE ABILITY Project, IX Network, the Gordie Center for Substance Abuse Prevention, Hollaback!, Stop the Silence, Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER), HazingPrevention.org, Break the Cycle, the National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence Across the Lifespan and Georgetown Law Advocates Against Sexual Violence.