PAVE Ambassador Erin Merryn honored as a Woman of the Year for Glamour Magazine!

Grab your copy of the Dec issue today! Erin continues to shatter the silence of sexual abuse and is working to protect children nationwide with her legislation Erin’s Law.

TV host Katie Couric said, “She’s taken her personal crusade and turned it into a public one. So many children will be protected because of her.” PAVE thanks Erin for her passion and energy to do this crucial work!

http://www.glamour.com/inspired/women-of-the-year/2012/erin-merryn

Standing Up For What Is Right

I recently came across an article that bewildered my mind. It actually made me stop and reflect. It made me realize that predators are everywhere; they can even be in our own homes.

A woman was in a relationship with a man. They began having problems and she no longer wanted to be in the relationship; she ended it. He didn’t take it well and wouldn’t leave. Despite all her attempts he continued to affirm the relationship. Then when sex became an issue she declined and he forced it upon her anyway.

Big Mistake!

Simply because you are in a relationship with someone, or because you have had relations with them in the past does not in any way entitle you to do it again. If a person says no, even just once, that’s it! End of story.

This man was charged for rape and sentenced to jail time.

This is a great example of peoples sense of entitlement on those they are in a relationship with. A person’s body is their own temple to do as they want with, it is never at the disposal of another, even if it is ones spouse.

There were many people’s personal opinions brought in on this case too. Many people think that it shouldn’t be a big deal for them to still be intimate but when a person declines that simply means they don’t want to. Why should she do something that she doesn’t want to do, and furthermore why should people judge her for turning him in for it. She is not causing unnecessary problems, he did! It goes back to the ideas that we teach our children; we are in charge of our own actions and we will punished when we make the wrong choices.

Written by: Ashten Meadows

October 2012

RA Dickey Story

As Major League Baseball’s regular season comes to an end, there is one player’s story that really stands out. Robert Allen “R.A.” Dickey, pitcher for the New York Mets, has a truly inspiring story. After being drafted in 1996 by the Texas Rangers, Dickey bounced from team to team with limited success. In 2010, Dickey joined with New York Mets, and broke out this year as the league’s only true knuckleballer winning 20 games in 2012.

Aside from the perseverance and determination he has shown as a pitcher and ball player, R.A. Dickey has survived much more. During his rise to baseball fame in 2012, Dickey also released his autobiography Wherever I Wind Up: My Quest for Truth, Authenticity and the Perfect Knucleball. In this in-depth, personal book, Dickey delves into his personal life and career.

But R.A. Dickey is more than a baseball player. He is a survivor. In his memoir, Dickey divulges two separate incidents of sexual assault suffered during the summer when he was only 8 years old — the first by a 13 year old female babysitter, and the second by a 17 year old male. Statistically speaking, 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted before the age of 18. Of sexually abused children grades five through twelve, 48% of the boys told no one about the abuse.

In a recent article on ESPN.go.com Dickey explains his hope for the book: “One of the hopes I have for the book, and will have as long as it’s out, is that people will be able to draw something from it that may help them — whether it’s to talk about it more, not to be afraid, to be open with what’s happened, and that there are people available that will love you no matter what. I kind of grew up in a place where I didn’t necessarily feel that.”

To read an excerpt from the book, visit sportsillustrated.cnn.com.

Written by: Alexandra L.

Vulnerability; Don’t Let It Happen To You!

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There was an article about a man who lured a 17 year old churchgoer into his home by telling her that he could rid her of bad spirits. He told her he could do some sort of witchcraft and rid anything bad. She believed him and went inside. He then raped her and told her that he would put a curse on her if she told anyone. He was arrested and has a 60,000 dollar bail amount.

My point to this article is that this young girl is a victim but we need to understand our own strengths and we need to be accountable for our actions. We cannot make ourselves vulnerable to these predators. However, in no way, shape, or form is this young girl to blame for anything that happened. The truth is, people should be able to dress however they want and do whatever they please and should never feel that they are “asking for it”. We need to be aware of our situations and we need to not be too trusting. I don’t believe that every person is a criminal but negligence is a powerful source for any perpetrator. We as a society need to help our youth understand that people are dangerous and that they need to be aware of their surroundings and to never enter someone’s house alone as this child did. We tell our children to never talk to strangers but where do we draw the line when it comes to trust?

Predators are in every city and could be your neighbor or your neighborhood clerk. Predators look for targets, the key is to be aware of this and do what you can to prevent it. Never enter someone’s house you don’t know alone; and especially if they are telling you something that seems too good to be true. Never walk alone at night, always be aware of your surroundings and let someone know where you are going and when you are expected to come back.

 

From http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/headlines/2012/10/black-magic-rape-suspect-arrested/

By Ashten Meadows