It’s Not Just In America

I recently came across a story that made me stop and think about the bigger picture on sexual assault. So many times we think about it being something that someone does to another in secret, or at least in partial seclusion. However, there are places in the world where it is almost done for show; or done to set an example for others. I am proud to live in a country where as a female I hold the same value as a male. This is very important to me, and I do not take this lightly.

An article I came across discussed in Egypt in 2011 during the Nile’s revolutionary chaos was an act of symbolism that took seven women and started off by beating them and electrocuting them and if that wasn’t enough began to perform “virginity tests” on the woman. This was done in front of a crowd and the entire public watched on. One girl in particular was also drugged and stomped on. This is a culture where woman are not valued the way that we are here, however why was this ever acceptable anywhere to begin with?

Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton called this a “degradation of woman.” This is exactly what it is.

Another example of this degradation of woman, was in 2007 when an Arabic ad where women were depicted as two kinds of lollipops. One, whose wrapper was removed, was covered with flies (male harassment).  The other, wrapper still on, attracted minimal insect attention. Clumsy and factually incorrect, this chauvinistic logic uses the Muslim headscarf as a symbol of patriarchy and control, when in fact, one might choose to wear the veil—or not to—for a multitude of reasons.  It also erroneously equates conservative dress with an absence of harassment.

Showing these acts in public gives people a generalization of woman that we are “used” or not something of value. Though this article shows negativity among other cultures, we have to stop and be grateful that we do are valued here. Though there are many issues that still need to be addressed relating to our rights and sexual assault, it is important to remember we as people are valuable no matter what. Our choice may reflect part of who we are but they are not the entire definition of who we are.

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Written By : Ashten Meadows

PAVE Founder on OWN

PAVE Founder Angela Rose on the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) This Thursday, VDAY, 2/14, 10pmEST

Angela Rose


PAVE Founder, Angela Rose, will be on the Oprah Winfrey Network on Vday, Feb 14, 2013 at 10pmEST on the new show “I Got Away” as she shares her story of being kidnapped from a shopping mall, sexually assaulted and her journey to rise above the pain to found a national nonprofit PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment.


1 Billion Rising

On behalf of PAVE’s 50 chapters and affiliates….we RISE with #1BillionRising
Important note: Although Angela’s story was a stranger assault, overwhelmingly sexual assault is committed by someone we know and trust. PAVE works to shatter the silence and end ALL sexual violence. WATCH ANGELA’S VIDEO BLOG ON RISING WITH VDAY



Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month!

Promoting healthy relationships, educating on teen dating violence and engaging  males and females to work together to shatter the silence & prevent the violence!

Click here for PAVE LOVE FEST pamphlet – Twitter Hashtag #TDVAM


PAVE Ambassador Sarah Rice on YouTube

PAVE Ambassador Johnna Janis on YouTube

PAVE Ambassador Jaime Gill on YouTube

Pinterest Postcard Campaign, Teen Video Contest, Downloadable Pamphlet  & Podcast from US Dept of HHS Office of Adolescent Health featuring PAVE Founder Angela Rose.

And Click here for more info from our friends at Break the Cycle!


  • Nearly 1.5 million HS students experience physical abuse from a dating partner per year in the US
  • 1 in 3 teens is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner


  • Stopping violence is everyone’s business
  • Trust your gut! If you think something is wrong, it probably is!
  • Say something when someone is being disrespectful
  • If you see something wrong, step in!
  • Speak up if you see someone intentionally getting someone drunk
  • Remind friends that sexual contact with an intoxicated person is against the law!


  • Jealousy and Distrust
  • Co-dependence
  • Fear
  • Putting You Down
  • Lack of Support for Things You Enjoy
  • Manipulation
  • Guilt for Spending Time with Friends and Family
  • Forced Sexual Contact
  • Threat of violence


  • Supportive
  • Respect of Oneself and Each Other
  • Good Communication
  • Equality
  • True Comfort in Being Your True Self
  • Your Have a Strong Friendship
  • Sense of Interdependence (Mutual Responsibility)


  • Believe every person
  • Treat them with respect
  • Be aware of victim blaming language
  • Offer them local resources
  • Be a good listener
  • Let them know that they are not alone

If you or someone you know is a victim of dating violence or sexual assault, reach out right away. The National Dating Abuse Helpline is 1-866-331-9474



PAVE Ambassador Sarah Rice on YouTube

PAVE Ambassador Johnna Janis on YouTube

PAVE Ambassador Jaime Gill on YouTube

PAVE Founder’s Book

PAVE Founder Angela Rose launched her first book “Hope, Healing & Happiness: Going Inward to Transform Your Life” on April 2, 2013 at Penn State Harrisburg!

CLICK HERE receive a free chapter and tangible empowerment tips!



Angela Rose is an author, speaker, humanitarian and entrepreneur who is passionate about helping people triumph over tragedy. Her decade of work on self-empowerment and community building has taken her across the country and abroad to speak on continuous improvement for the mind, body, and soul. Angela focuses on helping others take control of their minds, reconnect to the love and light within, and transform into their fullest potential as human beings. She has been seen on CNN, Dr. Drew, The Today Show, and TIME magazine. In 2012, the Bio Channel profiled Angela’s story of surviving abduction and assault on the show “I Survived”. CNN Headline News Morning Show featured Angela on the “Breakthrough Women” series:

Becoming Closer to the Cause

Over the past few years I worked continually to combat sexual assault, particularly on my own college campus. I led sexual assault awareness workshops where I taught students the truth about sexual abuse, combated stigmas, and provided resources about how to help a friend who survived sexual assault. I knew statistics inside and knew that 1 out of 6 college women survived rape or survived attempted rape in the past year, meaning if I had a group of 6 friends, one of them could have been a survivor of sexual assault. For a long time I felt lucky because as far as I knew, none of my friends had such experiences.

Although I felt connected to the cause, it was not until a few weeks ago that I truly grasped a direct connection to everything. As I visited my friend over winter break, I noticed something was a bit off. She was not her sarcastic funny self, but rather quiet and detached. I calmly inquired to determine what was wrong. With a pale face, she turned to me and told me that one of her friends raped her a few months ago and that her life deteriorated ever since.

On paper I knew what I was supposed to say to a friend who survives sexual assault: “No matter what it’s not your fault”, “I believe you”, “Thank you for sharing your experience with me.” However, when the situation arose right in front of me, with my own best friend, it was hard to produce the right words.

After a few minutes of silence, I managed to comfort her and listen to her story. At one point as she recounted her experience, it occurred to me: Sexual assault really can happen to anyone. While I knew this was true, it became all too real for me as I discovered the emotional turmoil my friend experienced over the past few months. Moreover, the fact that her own friend sexually assaulted her makes it all too apparent that the majority of perpetrators know their victims.

I share this story with the hope that we all remember to support our loved ones who experience sexual assault. Remember, it is not always easy to know who is a survivor of sexual abuse just by looking at them. We need to provide comfort, love, and an open-mind to our survivors. We need to allow them to share their story and truly be heard.

Written by: MK

Erin’s Law

PAVE Ambassador Erin Merryn is an author/activist/speaker who has launched a nationwide effort to pass Erin’s Law.

“Erin’s Law” requires that all public schools implement a prevention-oriented child sexual abuse program which teaches:

  1. Students in grades preK – 5th grade, age-appropriate techniques to recognize child sexual abuse and tell a trusted adult
  2. School personnel all about child sexual abuse
  3. Parents & guardians the warning signs of child sexual abuse, plus needed assistance, referral or resource information to support sexually abused children and their families

Already state governments in Illinois, Indiana, Maine and Missouri have passed Erin’s Law.

It is now pending in eight additional states, with more to come:

  1. Georgia
  2. Michigan
  3. Minnesota
  4. Mississippi
  5. Nevada
  6. New Mexico
  7. New York
  8. Pennsylvania

Erin’s Law is named after childhood sexual assault survivor turned activist Erin Merryn, who is the founder and President of Erin’s Law, which is registered with the IRS as a 501 (c)(4) non-profit social welfare organization.

Erin has been featured on OprahMontel WilliamsGood Morning AmericaCNNTimeThe Chicago Tribune and was recently named a Glamour Woman of the Year. She has dedicated her life to preventing child sexual abuse and supporting its victims. She is determined to see to it that all 50 states pass Erin’s Law to protect millions of children from having to experience anything similar to what she did.


Mother Indicted for Raping Her Own Children

I recently came across a story that blew my mind! As we all know rapists come in all forms, shapes, sizes, backgrounds and genders. Even though we all know this we oftentimes do not stop and think about it. I came across the story of a 50 year old mother who raped and sexually assaulted her two children. It took the children 10 years to come forward and when they finally did authorities took quick and drastic action. The woman was indicted on 38 charges of sexual abuse and incest.

Once the children came forward, two other individuals came forward as well. This woman took her right as a mother and threw it out the window. Parents and adults in general have a certain level of protection towards children whether it be our own or just a child passing by. To sexually abuse any child is a horrible crime but for someone to do it to their own children is a travesty.

Though this story is detrimental to anyone who reads it, there is a positive light. Not only does it show the strength and courage that these children have to come through this and do what is right even though it is their mother, it is also a reflection on the authorities taking charge. The DA that indicted this woman and the police investigating this case left no stone unturned. This is the type of action that needs to be taken with all cases; man, woman or child.

By: Ashten Meadows

Help in the Fight

This story comes from a personal level. This is the story of a young girl who was sexually assaulted by a man more than ten years her senior! He threatened her and told her not to tell. She didn’t. She became pregnant and had the baby and all the while never revealing who the father was. When she finally turned 18 she told her family what had happened and who the child’s father was. The family began to fight to have this man prosecuted but everywhere the family turns in this small town doors as being slammed in their face. This is a tragedy in itself. What is the world coming too that this can simply be brushed aside? There is a petition circulating in hopes to make enough noise that this city takes charge and gives this man what he deserves. Please help in the fight.


By Ashten Meadows

Taylor’s Story

For my 17th birthday, I celebrated I am alive and wanted to make a difference. I raised $1,724 from my friends and family for PAVE.

December 2012

Dear Mom, dad, aunt, uncle, brother or sister,

The silence was shattered for me September 4, 2009. Just like the Sandusky survivors I, too, cried in silence and lived in fear of someone twice my size and a foot taller would come into my bedroom again during the middle of the night after drinking and molest me. I was just thirteen years of age when he started molesting me. My mother ignored me then abandoned me. Safely, I have been living with my dad ever since I shattered the silence.

I hope you never have to see someone in the bed of an emergency room because they tried to commit suicide. My dad, who protects me, experienced this May 26, 2010 when I tried to commit suicide. My grades had dropped and I was behind in school. My abuser continued to taunt me and my family had to move to protect me.

I am not writing you for pity. Right now, someone cries in silence and lives in fear from an abuser. I am writing you to join me and help others shatter the silence. Today, I am asking you to do something I already did for PAVE.

I met Angela Rose who founded PAVE the spring of 2012 when my friend Robin Sax, board member of PAVE, introduced us. I realized bad things happen to good people. It is what we do with this that matters. I realized we can do nothing or stand up and help others shatter the silence. Angela, a fellow victim, survivor, and advocate; needed more of us victims to join her and help others shatter the silence.
I am standing up to those who abuse, neglect and bully. To do this we need money for PAVE.

For my 17th birthday in July 2012 I celebrated I am alive and wanted to make a difference. I raised $1,724 from my friends and family for PAVE.

I am asking you to join me and donate now and help others shatter the silence.

By the way, I graduated high school more than six months early on November 5, 2012 with a grade point
average over 3.2. Your donation today will help someone like me shatter the silence.

Yours in shattering the silence,
Taylor Simpfenderfer
Bellflower California

PS: PAVE is a 501c3 nonprofit and donations can be sent to PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment - PO Box 26354, Alexandria, VA 22313 or CLICK HERE to donate online

When everyone else gives up, find your strength

I went to a very small liberal arts college in Maryland. When I say small, I’m talking under 2,000 students small.  It is the type of school where everybody knows everybody else and you would be hard-pressed to find someone you had never seen before. I can honestly say that during my four years there, I never once didn’t feel safe. It was the type of place where everyone just took care of each other.

I’m not saying that bad things didn’t happen at my school, but when they did it felt like everyone came together. I really believe that every member of my collegiate family, whether students, faculty or staff, cared by each other.

So when I read articles of college students being sexually assaulted by fellow students it always seemed so unfathomable to me.  “That must have happened at a big school,” we would always say. So, when I read a recent article in the New York Times about a sexual assault that happened at another small school, Amhurst College, I couldn’t believe it. Now listen, I’m not naïve enough to think that sexual assault doesn’t happen at every college, even my own alma mater. But what really shocked me to my core was the reaction of the college’s staff and administration.

When the student was ready to seek counseling for her assault, the staff victimized her again. She lived in the same dorm as her attacker, and when she asked to be relocated, she was told she couldn’t move because all of the buildings were full. They also told her that pressing charges would be “useless” as the student was about to graduate. They even asked her if she was “sure she had been raped.”

She could have given up. She could have accepted this as the end of her fight. Instead, this student wrote an article for her school newspaper, telling the story of not only her rape, but her encounter with the school’s staff as well. Her story gave others strength. As the New York Times’ article explains that her article “prompted other Amherst students, past and present, to step forward publicly and say that they, too, had been sexually assaulted here, treated poorly afterward, and in many cases had left campus rather than be around assailants who were allowed to remain.”

While the school’s staff may not have stood behind this victim, the student body did. This small college was outraged at the actions of its staff, and banded together to instill change. With the support of the school’s new president, real change is being made at Amhurst College. While the student no longer attends the school, I can hope that she is proud of the impact she has had there.

This article really hit home with me. It made me proud to go to a school with a staff that was always there for its students, but it also reminded of the power you need to find within yourself. This student could have so easily given up on herself when the staff turned her away. But she didn’t. She found the strength within herself to tell her story. And it changed an entire institution. When everyone else gives up on you, never give up on yourself.

I’m a big fan of quotes, and I think this one really sums up this article:

“My own heroes are the dreamers, those men and women who tried to make the world a better place than when they found it, whether in small ways or great ones. Some succeeded, some failed, most had mixed results… but it’s the effort that’s heroic, as I see it. Win or lost, I admire those who fight the good fight.”  – George R. R. Martin


Written by:  Alexandra L.     November 2012