UPDATE, Feb 4 – THANK YOU…‘magic number’ of 60 bipartisan cosponsors of VAWA legislation reached! Sen. Patrick Leahy, D-Vt., said Friday that the Senate has enough votes to pass the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act, with the Senate to begin consideration of the law this week. Thank your Senator! READ MORE
PAVE ACTION ALERT!
The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), enacted in 1994, recognizes the insidious and pervasive nature of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking and supports comprehensive, effective and cost saving responses to these crimes. Historically, VAWA has had bipartisan support! VAWA programs, administered by the Departments of Justice and Health and Human Services, give law enforcement, prosecutors and judges the tools they need to hold offenders accountable and keep communities safe while supporting victims. VAWA must be swiftly reauthorized to ensure the continuation of these vital, lifesaving programs and laws.
THE SENATE WILL VOTE NEXT WEEK – WE NEED YOU!
Step one: Click here to find your state Senators
Step two: Click here to see if your Senators are in support of VAWA
Step three: If they are already a co-sponsor, please call to say thanks.
If you don’t see your Senator on the list of current co-sponsors, please call the United States Capitol switchboard at (202) 224-3121, ask for your Senator’s office. When they answer, say….
I am a constituent from (city and state) and my name is _________. I urge Senator_____ to co-sponsor the S. 47, a strong, bipartisan bill that would reauthorize the lifesaving Violence Against Women Act. Thank you and I look forward to hearing that the Senator is a co-sponsor.
Step four: Please leave a comment here when you have done this!
Step five: Forward this to your friends via FB/Twitter/Email
VAWA has improved the criminal justice response to violence against women by:
• holding rapists accountable for their crimes by strengthening federal penalties for repeat sex offenders and creating a federal “rape shield law,” which is intended to prevent offenders from using victims’ past sexual conduct against them during a rape trial;
• mandating that victims, no matter their income levels, are not forced to bear the expense of their own rape exams or for service of a protection order;
• keeping victims safe by requiring that a victim’s protection order will be recognized and enforced in all state, tribal, and territorial jurisdictions within the United States;
• increasing rates of prosecution, conviction, and sentencing of offenders by helping communities develop dedicated law enforcement and prosecution units and domestic violence dockets;
• ensuring that police respond to crisis calls and judges understand the realities of domestic and sexual violence by training law enforcement officers, prosecutors, victim advocates and judges; VAWA funds train over 500,000 law enforcement officers, prosecutors, judges, and other personnel every year;
• providing additional tools for protecting women in Indian country by creating a new federal habitual offender crime and authorizing warrantless arrest authority for federal law enforcement officers who determine there is probable cause when responding to domestic violence cases
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National Rally Against Rape: Shatter The Silence & Prevent the Violence on 01/31/13
Our Time is NOW!
Arlington, VA – PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment – a leading national nonprofit group that shatters the silence of sexual violence – is joining forces with the support of other organizations for this unprecedented launch of a national movement Rally Against Rape: Shatter the Silence & Prevent the Violence on Thursday, January 31, 2013.
The controversy surrounding Steubenville, Ohio of an alleged gang rape of a high school girl that went viral coupled with the recent death of a gang rape victim in India has demonstrated the critical need for our country to come together in solidarity to launch a nationwide movement to prevent sexual violence and create a supportive community for survivors.
The Rally Against Rape: Shatter the Silence, Prevent the Violence features a step-by-step action guide to complete this event in your community. This free kit includes web-based instructional curriculum, celebrity cameos, and other tangible tools to use for the day of action and throughout the year. It also is a call to action for the reauthorizing of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).
Leading research has found that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 (Finkelhor). PAVE’s efforts boldly aspire to one day transform our nation into one free from sexual assault — and to ensure that until we collectively realize this transformative vision, that no victim ever feels alone or disempowered.
PAVE Founder Angela Rose said, “All of these recent travesties of justice present a unique window of opportunity to fuse our energy. Sexual abuse plagues our society and the silence, shame, and cover-ups allow it to continue – we must work together to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence. Our time is NOW.”
Angela Rose was featured on HLN (CNN’s Headline News) on the “BREAKTHROUGH WOMEN” series for her work in creating PAVE.
TO GET INVOLVED, email RallyAgainstRape@yahoo.com
PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment is a multinational nonprofit that uses art, education and grassroots action to shatter the silence of sexual violence.
PAVE is proud to announce that Chicago broadcasting legend Merri Dee is our newest PAVE Ambassador. This past week, Ms. Dee was given the honor of being appointed by IL Governor Quinn as the Human Rights Commissioner!
“When you think that you are all alone and no one understands what you have been through, PAVE is here for you. PAVE offers light, love, direction, guidance and a reason to go on. When you are a PAVE member you have joined a major, national advocacy group of supporters. PAVE advocates for you where you are, on college campuses, in Washington. A PAVE membership is not a card to carry, its an actionable step that you take for yourself – that you genuinely share with others. Do something powerful! Join PAVE now!”
About Merri Dee…
Merri Dee is a nationally recognized motivational speaker and a highly popular panelist, moderator, and professional mentor. As president of MD Communications, she helps organizations develop strategies on media relations, marketing and public relations, community relations, and fundraising. In addition, Merri Dee provides individuals with professional and life coaching assistance.
As a celebrated motivational and keynote speaker, Merri Dee infuses humor and warmth into her real-life stories that inspire individuals and employees to rise above challenges and seize control of their destinies. She has presented to audiences from a few hundred to more than a thousand. Clients for her keynote addresses include companies in the Fortune 100 such as AT&T, Kraft, and Motorola. Merri Dee’s inspirational keynote topics include:
– Communication and Leadership Skills
– Increasing Productivity
– The Will to Survive Fear and Pain
– Successful Fundraising
– Supporting Military Families
– From One Caregiver to Another
– Surviving the Senior Years (Helping Your Seniors Live Their Best Lives)
– Women: Empowered
– Violence Prevention
As an award-winning broadcaster, Merri Dee has been a trailblazer in both radio and television. She has served as a newscaster, talk show host, and staff announcer. Later she served as Director of Community Relations at superstation WGN-TV and as advisor to other Tribune owned TV stations. She has hosted countless parades, telethons, television specials and has served as an emcee and host for a variety of organizations.
For more than 30 years, Merri Dee co-hosted the nationally syndicated “UNCF Annual Evening of Stars,” raising tens of millions of dollars for college scholarships. She leveraged her relationship with the McCormick Foundation to raise more than $31 million for Chicago Children’s Charities. However, her efforts extend beyond raising money. She supports organizations that address critical social issues such as adoption and foster care, violence prevention, education, and women’s issues.
An impassioned advocate for violence prevention, Merri Dee arrives at this issue from personal experience. Many lifelong Chicagoans still remember her heart-wrenching story of being kidnapped at gunpoint, shot, and left for dead by an assailant. Given last rites twice, overcoming paralysis and blindness, Merri Dee survived and became an inspiration to others overcoming various traumas. The account of her ordeal was the subject of several network programs, including 60 Minutes, the Phil Donahue Show, and Oprah.
This life-changing experience led her to being the force behind the Illinois General Assembly’s passage of the nation’s first Victim’s Bill of Rights. Illinois’ legislation has served as the model for similar laws throughout the United States. While Merri Dee continues to speak forcefully about violence prevention, she also provides her expertise to CeaseFire, a highly successful evidence-based national violence prevention organization.
Merri Dee is the recipient of numerous awards and honors. Among these are:
– Silver Circle Award, Academy of TV Arts & Sciences
– President’s Award, United Negro College Fund
– Hall of Fame Induction, National Association of Black Journalists
– Adoption Excellence Award, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services
– National Women in Film
She has received honorary doctorate degrees from Tougaloo College and Lewis University.
Merri Dee was appointed to serve as an official U.S. Army Ambassador. She was appointed by former Chicago Mayor Richard Daley to serve on the Mayor’s Council on Women’s Issues, and by Illinois Governor Pat Quinn to The Serve Illinois Commission, a volunteer advocacy delegation. Merri Dee is the Illinois State President of AARP, which has 1.8 million members. Merri Dee has recently been appointed a Commissioner, Ill. Human Rights Commission.
For my 17th birthday, I celebrated I am alive and wanted to make a difference. I raised $1,724 from my friends and family for PAVE.
Dear Mom, dad, aunt, uncle, brother or sister,
The silence was shattered for me September 4, 2009. Just like the Sandusky survivors I, too, cried in silence and lived in fear of someone twice my size and a foot taller would come into my bedroom again during the middle of the night after drinking and molest me. I was just thirteen years of age when he started molesting me. My mother ignored me then abandoned me. Safely, I have been living with my dad ever since I shattered the silence.
I hope you never have to see someone in the bed of an emergency room because they tried to commit suicide. My dad, who protects me, experienced this May 26, 2010 when I tried to commit suicide. My grades had dropped and I was behind in school. My abuser continued to taunt me and my family had to move to protect me.
I am not writing you for pity. Right now, someone cries in silence and lives in fear from an abuser. I am writing you to join me and help others shatter the silence. Today, I am asking you to do something I already did for PAVE.
I met Angela Rose who founded PAVE the spring of 2012 when my friend Robin Sax, board member of PAVE, introduced us. I realized bad things happen to good people. It is what we do with this that matters. I realized we can do nothing or stand up and help others shatter the silence. Angela, a fellow victim, survivor, and advocate; needed more of us victims to join her and help others shatter the silence.
I am standing up to those who abuse, neglect and bully. To do this we need money for PAVE.
For my 17th birthday in July 2012 I celebrated I am alive and wanted to make a difference. I raised $1,724 from my friends and family for PAVE.
I am asking you to join me and donate now and help others shatter the silence.
By the way, I graduated high school more than six months early on November 5, 2012 with a grade point
average over 3.2. Your donation today will help someone like me shatter the silence.
Yours in shattering the silence,
PS: PAVE is a 501c3 nonprofit and donations can be sent to PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment - PO Box 26354, Alexandria, VA 22313 or CLICK HERE to donate online
Grab your copy of the Dec issue today! Erin continues to shatter the silence of sexual abuse and is working to protect children nationwide with her legislation Erin’s Law.
TV host Katie Couric said, “She’s taken her personal crusade and turned it into a public one. So many children will be protected because of her.” PAVE thanks Erin for her passion and energy to do this crucial work!
Warning: New Date Rape Drug; Easier than Ever!
This article is set to inform people that there is a new drug on the “market”. This drug is said to be easier to hide and access, and very much cheaper than other known “date rape drugs”. It is an eye drop that’s considered the new form of Rohypnol and it is being used to spike victims’ drinks making them much easier targets.
Police are saying that it isn’t really a problem however many people in the nightclub industry are saying a completely different story. Nightclubs are refusing to let any form of eye drops be brought into their nightclubs. Their advice: don’t accept drinks or ice cubes from strangers. They can even spike the ice cubes if they have an accomplice behind the bar. Never drink communal drinks either. “And if a friend suddenly feels ill at a party, never leave them unattended. The rapist wants to isolate her in the bathroom, where he can rape her and she won’t recall a thing.”
The eye drops are not effective unless put into alcohol, so for any sober drinker there is no way to spike their drink with this. The alcohol acts as a catalyst and the more concentrated the alcohol is the stronger the drug will hit the victim.
Symptoms are dizziness, drowsiness, diarrhea, nausea and amnesia. The effects the next day feel like a person drank ten times what they really did.
Everyone should be aware of their surroundings and no what to look for. Being informed is the first step in protecting yourself.
Talk, Share, Shatter the Silence…donate to PAVE and receive Moms Shattering The Silence, a multi-media tool kit for Moms to talk to kids about sexual abuse.
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MARY AMONS – Bravo’s Real Housewives of DC
DR. CHERYL ARUTT - Psychologist & Trauma Expert SEEN ON CNN, HLN, truTV AND FOX NEWS
DR. JENN BERMAN – Host of VH1′s Couples Therapy and The Love and Sex Show with Dr. Jenn on Sirius XM & Mother of Twins
DR. THEMA BRYANT-DAVIS – Licensed Psychologist, Poet, Dancer & Minister Seen on BET, PBS, Dr. Phil, ESSENCE Magazine
JENNER EVANS - Actress/model/comedian who has appeared on shows on E! and Lifetime
KIM GOLDMAN – Internationally Best-Selling Author, Speaker, Radio Host, Activist Seen on Oprah
DR. MICHELLE GOLLAND – National Relationship Expert and Psychologist Seen on CNN, Fox and Dr. Drew on CNN HLN
ANDREA METCALF – Best-selling Author Seen on NBC’s TODAY SHOW, Good Morning America and Oprah.com
ANGELICA PAGE - American Award Winning actress, Director, Producer and Screenwriter
MELISSA JUN ROWLEY – Award-Winning Journalist, On-Air Host, and Content Strategist
ROBIN SAX – Author & Legal Analyst seen on CNN, Fox, and The Today Show
LIZ SECCURO – Author, Speaker, Advocate seen on Dateline NBC, The Today Show, MSNBC
PAVE MEDIA MOMS AVAILABLE FOR INTERVIEW
PAVE Founder Angela Rose, Sexual Assault Survivor, on A&E’s Bio Channel “I Survived” & Other National Media
Angela Rose, PAVE Founder is a survivor…and thriver. At the age of 17, Angela was abducted at knife point outside a suburban Chicago shopping mall. She was assaulted by a repeat sex-offender on parole for murder-and was eventually released by her attacker. Angela shares her story through her nonprofit PAVE (Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment), across college campuses and on national media including Oprah Winfrey Network, CNN, A&E Bio Channel’s television show I Survived.
FOLLOW ANGELA ON TWITTER: AngelaRosePAVE
Important note: Although Angela’s story was a stranger assault, overwhelmingly sexual assault is committed by someone we know and trust. PAVE works to shatter the silence and prevent ALL sexual violence.
Tune in for an personal account of her experiences and how she is now helping other victims get their voice back. CLICK HERE
CLICK HERE to see Angela Rose on THE LEAD on CNN HLN – Aug 2013
Sexual assault survivor Angela Rose says any time you can shatter the silence about what happened, you reclaim power.
CLICK HERE to see Dr. Drew on CNN Headline News
CLICK HERE to Listen to PAVE Founder Angela Rose on the Geraldo Rivera Radio Show talking about the Castro case – August 2013
CLICK HERE to see “BREAKTHROUGH WOMEN” segment about Angela Rose
CLICK HERE to see Angela Rose on ABC 7 news Chicago.
CLICK HERE to watch the RACE FOR CHANGE on ABC news. April 2013
CLICK HERE to watch PAVE Founder Angela Rose on FOX’s Mike Huckabee Show with celebrity co-host Bethenny Frankel.
CLICK HERE for more info on Angela Rose on Good Day LA.
CLICK HERE to see Angela Rose on Sacramento & Co Morning Show.
CLICK HERE to see Angela Rose on a news broadcast in the Bahamas.
FOLLOW ANGELA ON TWITTER: AngelaRosePAVE
The topic of choice this month for PAVE is Healthy Relationships. While February is almost over I want to continue the conversation considering recent news of Rihanna and Chris Brown collaborating on a remix, “Birthday Cake” and confirmation that they are “rekindling” their relationship after Rihanna was a victim of violent abuse in their previous relationship. While this “rekindling” is sure to get a lot of media coverage, I appreciate the feministing.com post going directly to the bigger issues involved that are more important than the celebrity couple reunion itself.
The post discussed how this would affect the conversation on domestic violence being that a reunion between the two celebrities would be a widely viewed, public affair. As mentioned in the post, this raises concern in part because it is not unlikely for victims to return to their abusers; but what kind of example does this set? Will people use this to cut off a real discussion about domestic violence, and the circumstances and norms that surround the issue because a female celebrity chose to restart a professional and/or personal relationship with her perpetrator?
I want to talk about why this happens. Why do victims of domestic violence return to their abuser? I am aware that their are circumstances that prevent victims from getting out of an abusive relationship, but that does not make the violence okay. I agree with the article that the main point is that even if Rihanna and Chris Brown get back together, domestic abuse is unacceptable with no exceptions. I just hope fans of Rihanna and Chris Brown don’t form the wrong impression about domestic abuse from this.