Travesty of Justice for Clergy Sexual Abuse Victims

Millstone Memorial, the nation’s first memorial in remembrance of clergy sex abuse survivors which was destroyed by a vandal for the second time in less than two years. PAVE Founder Angela Rose spoke at the rededication ceremony.

Media links: - Memorial to child victims of church sex abuse, destroyed twice, to be rededicated Sunday

Daily Record – Church rededicates monument to abuse survivors

Mendham Chester Patch – Monument ‘Expands Message’ With Third Dedication – Child sex abuse ‘as important as any other act of terrorism,’ crowd told at Mendham church

CBS NYC – Advocates Rededicate Sexual Abuse Victims’ Memorial Twice Hit By Vandals

Salem News – Twice Vandalized NJ Memorial to Clergy Sex Abuse Victims Rededicated in Special Ceremony

Travesty of Justice for Clergy Sexual Abuse Victims

Last Sunday in Mendham, NJ, I was a guest speaker at the rededication of the nation’s first memorial in remembrance of clergy sex abuse survivors, which was destroyed by a vandal for the second time in less than two years. The rededication ceremony was held in front of the damaged memorial outside of St Joseph’s Church, where former pastor James T. Hanley (who since has been defrocked) sexually abused more than sixty boys in the rectory.

How many news reports have you seen and heard of sexual abuse by priests? Countless. It has become practically normalized because it is so frequent. It needs to stop—and we as a nation need to come together with a unified voice to take stand.

We need to raise our voices in protest for the cover-ups, the victim blame, and the failure to protect our nation’s youth.

Now is the time. Sandusky, Catholic sexual abuse scandals, Steubenville: it is time for this nation to stand in solidarity to support sexual assault survivors and say, “No More.”

The time is NOW to stand together and be the voice for everyone who has been silenced by sexual violence.



Steubenville Verdict

PAVE Founder Angela Rose talks about the verdict in the Steubenville, OH rape case…and the CNN media coverage of when the verdict was read. Sign the petition – click here!

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VAWA Action Alert!

UPDATE, Feb 4 –  THANK YOU…‘magic number’ of 60 bipartisan cosponsors of VAWA legislation reached! Sen. Patrick Leahy, D-Vt., said Friday that the Senate has enough votes to pass the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act, with the Senate to begin consideration of the law this week. Thank your Senator! READ MORE


The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), enacted in 1994, recognizes the insidious and pervasive nature of domestic violence, dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking and supports comprehensive, effective and cost saving responses to these crimes. Historically, VAWA has had bipartisan support! VAWA programs, administered by the Departments of Justice and Health and Human Services, give law enforcement, prosecutors and judges the tools they need to hold offenders accountable and keep communities safe while supporting victims. VAWA must be swiftly reauthorized to ensure the continuation of these vital, lifesaving programs and laws.


Step one: Click here to find your state Senators

Step two: Click here to see if your Senators are in support of VAWA

Step three: If they are already a co-sponsor, please call to say thanks.

If you don’t see your Senator on the list of current co-sponsors, please call the United States Capitol switchboard at (202) 224-3121, ask for your Senator’s office. When they answer, say….

I am a constituent from (city and state) and my name is _________. I urge Senator_____ to co-sponsor the S. 47, a strong, bipartisan bill that would reauthorize the lifesaving Violence Against Women Act. Thank you and I look forward to hearing that the Senator is a co-sponsor.

Step four: Please leave a comment here when you have done this!

Step five: Forward this to your friends via FB/Twitter/Email

VAWA has improved the criminal justice response to violence against women by:

• holding rapists accountable for their crimes by strengthening federal penalties for repeat sex offenders and creating a federal “rape shield law,” which is intended to prevent offenders from using victims’ past sexual conduct against them during a rape trial;

• mandating that victims, no matter their income levels, are not forced to bear the expense of their own rape exams or for service of a protection order;

• keeping victims safe by requiring that a victim’s protection order will be recognized and enforced in all state, tribal, and territorial jurisdictions within the United States;

• increasing rates of prosecution, conviction, and sentencing of offenders by helping communities develop dedicated law enforcement and prosecution units and domestic violence dockets;

• ensuring that police respond to crisis calls and judges understand the realities of domestic and sexual violence by training law enforcement officers, prosecutors, victim advocates and judges; VAWA funds train over 500,000 law enforcement officers, prosecutors, judges, and other personnel every year;

• providing additional tools for protecting women in Indian country by creating a new federal habitual offender crime and authorizing warrantless arrest authority for federal law enforcement officers who determine there is probable cause when responding to domestic violence cases

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National Rally Against Rape – TAKE THE PLEDGE


National Rally Against Rape: Shatter The Silence & Prevent the Violence on 01/31/13

Our Time is NOW!


Arlington, VA – PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment – a leading national nonprofit group that shatters the silence of sexual violence – is joining forces with the support of other organizations for this unprecedented launch of a national movement Rally Against Rape: Shatter the Silence & Prevent the Violence on Thursday, January 31, 2013.

The controversy surrounding Steubenville, Ohio of an alleged gang rape of a high school girl that went viral coupled with the recent death of a gang rape victim in India has demonstrated the critical need for our country to come together in solidarity to launch a nationwide movement to prevent sexual violence and create a supportive community for survivors.

The Rally Against Rape: Shatter the Silence, Prevent the Violence features a step-by-step action guide to complete this event in your community. This free kit includes web-based instructional curriculum, celebrity cameos, and other tangible tools to use for the day of action and throughout the year. It also is a call to action for the reauthorizing of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA).

Leading research has found that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before the age of 18 (Finkelhor). PAVE’s efforts boldly aspire to one day transform our nation into one free from sexual assault — and to ensure that until we collectively realize this transformative vision, that no victim ever feels alone or disempowered.

PAVE Founder Angela Rose said, “All of these recent travesties of justice present a unique window of opportunity to fuse our energy. Sexual abuse plagues our society and the silence, shame, and cover-ups allow it to continue – we must work together to shatter the silence and prevent sexual violence. Our time is NOW.”

Angela Rose was featured on HLN (CNN’s Headline News) on the “BREAKTHROUGH WOMEN” series for her work in creating PAVE.


PAVE: Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment is a multinational nonprofit that uses art, education and grassroots action to shatter the silence of sexual violence.



Standing Up For What Is Right

I recently came across an article that bewildered my mind. It actually made me stop and reflect. It made me realize that predators are everywhere; they can even be in our own homes.

A woman was in a relationship with a man. They began having problems and she no longer wanted to be in the relationship; she ended it. He didn’t take it well and wouldn’t leave. Despite all her attempts he continued to affirm the relationship. Then when sex became an issue she declined and he forced it upon her anyway.

Big Mistake!

Simply because you are in a relationship with someone, or because you have had relations with them in the past does not in any way entitle you to do it again. If a person says no, even just once, that’s it! End of story.

This man was charged for rape and sentenced to jail time.

This is a great example of peoples sense of entitlement on those they are in a relationship with. A person’s body is their own temple to do as they want with, it is never at the disposal of another, even if it is ones spouse.

There were many people’s personal opinions brought in on this case too. Many people think that it shouldn’t be a big deal for them to still be intimate but when a person declines that simply means they don’t want to. Why should she do something that she doesn’t want to do, and furthermore why should people judge her for turning him in for it. She is not causing unnecessary problems, he did! It goes back to the ideas that we teach our children; we are in charge of our own actions and we will punished when we make the wrong choices.

Written by: Ashten Meadows

October 2012

Importance of Bystander Intervention for Those at Risk of committing Sexual Violence Themselves

‘Sexual violence victimization of Women: Prevalence, Characteristics, and the Role of Public Health and Prevention’ is another great article in the September/October 2011 issue of American Journal of Lifestyle Medicine. As a follow up to my most recent post, a response to ‘Violence and Men’s Health: Understanding the Etiological Underpinnings of Men’s Experiences With Interpersonal Violence,’ this article made me think about how critical it is for perpetrators (or those showing signs of becoming perpetrators of sexual or interpersonal violence) to change on the individual level. Again, approaching this issue like a disease with a cure I want to highlight a suggested course of action that I think could make even more of a difference than the article suggests.

The ‘Sexual Violence Victimization of Women’ article discusses bystander prevention programs for males with symptoms of becoming perpetrators. Kathleen C. Basile and Sharon G. Smith suggest that these programs will raise awareness among males of peers that may be at risk of committing sexual violence. I completely agree with their thinking that this will make a difference because of the power of influence our peer groups have on our ideologies and decisions. I see such bystander prevention programs as also positively affecting at risk males as a bystander. Those at risk as bystanders are then also aware of themselves. One of the greatest effects a bystander can initiate is to make a perpetrator reflect on their words or actions. Programs that support and teach at risk males the importance of intervention seems like it would indefinitely heightened self-awareness of they themselves committing this same violence.

Such bystander prevention programs are recommended in association with working with adolescent males. When the root of this problem are ideas that make sexual violence or any violent victimization okay then that is exactly what we have to address directly. I do want to point out that parents as bystanders, who are aware of their influence and active in making the making a positive impact on their child understand their crucial role as well. ‘Violence and males’ tells us that parental supervision is higher with girls’ activities versus boys’ activities, and this is linked to the differences in physical aggression. I feel that this is something that individuals in parenting positions should consider, if for no other reason than to be aware of it. No more ‘boys will be boys’ kind of ideas. How can we put this into action? Is this something to consider as teachers or babysitters or older siblings as well?